Welcome back to Restorative Grief with Mandy Capehart. You are listening to episode 55 titled “A Bizarre Thing to go Through with Phil Drysdale.” Over the last decade, Phil Drysdale has become a thought leader in the world of deconstruction, but not because he’s offering clarity or answers. To his point, as you’ll hear, there are no deconstruction organizations that you can join on a Sunday morning, but Phil did create a deconstruction community online for people to find one another in person. Anyone who has experienced a shift in their beliefs will tell you that grief is intimately intertwined with changing faith. So today’s conversation is about how we can continue to find growth, meaning, and connection as we move away from black and white thinking into a practice of integration – how do we bring the best parts of our past selves into the present in pursuit of who we are becoming? This a bit of a long episode but I guarantee, it’s worth every minute.
Thank you for listening to episode 55 of Restorative Grief. Deconstruction is an act as old as the earth itself, and yet something in this last generation has vilified the process as heretical, harmful, dangerous, etc. I think of all the ways we could think about deconstruction, Phil’s last point makes the most sense – we must allow ourselves to experience others and ourselves through expectations that are relevant to our current place in the world. Otherwise, we pile on the shame and continue to labor under the mantle of life that is no longer ours to carry.
If anything here resonated with you, I would strongly encourage you to follow Phil on Instagram, Twitter, through his website, or especially through his Patreon. The work he creates is entirely for free and fully accessible, and it takes much of his time – especially the new research arm of The Deconstruction Network, so let’s honor that with generosity if we can.
If this is your first time listening to Restorative Grief, thank you for choosing to join us and stick it out through the end! Please take a moment to subscribe to the show and leave a review. There are plenty of links in the show notes for you to connect with me online as well, or to join our show as a Patron, too. I would be honored to have you along for the ride.
And one last thing, as always. Please remember, the only solution for grief is to do the work of grieving. Thank you for listening. I’ll see you next week.
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